Examine the intentions behind your resolutions. Are you doing it for yourself or for someone else? Are you doing it to gain approval and out of fear of rejection? Or is it for your own personal fulfillment, evolution and wellbeing?
The moment you try to prove yourself to someone else, you lose your value and relinquish your power. You're saying someone else's opinion has the ability to control the way you feel about yourself and determine your self worth. When making your resolution, do it to please only one person: YOU.
2) Examine how you feel
We have two basic emotions: fear and love. Choose to make your resolutions based on love. For example, if you resolve to lose ten pounds, do it because you love your body and you're excited to feel more alive in your skin and not because you're afraid that every guy or girl on Tinder will swipe left and you'll end up alone forever (they won't and you won't).
Don't let the fear of some douchebag swiping left influence your resolutions.
If thinking about your resolution gets you all juiced up and excited or brings you an instant feeling of relief, you know you're on the right track.
3) Make your goals smart
Are your goals for 2016 Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time-bound?
Rather than simply saying you'll do more yoga, pick up a schedule, circle the classes you plan to attend each week and put them in your calendar. Learn more about SMART goals here.
4) Say it out loud (to the right people)
Write down your resolutions then share them with a few close relatives, friends and mentors that you know will be supportive. Saying your goal out loud will make it feel more real and it'll help hold you accountable.
NB: If your goal is of a personal and sensitive nature, refrain from making it your Facebook status and plastering it all over the twittersphere. Nothing kills a dream faster than online haters.
5) Start NOW
Ten years ago, I was sitting at Starbucks and thought, "I want to open a yoga studio". I had no money, no connections and no business experience. I wasn't even a yoga teacher, yet. Rather than letting those glaring shortcomings stop me, I asked myself, "What can I do NOW to move in the direction of my goal?"
A year before HappyTree became an incorporated business and a physical place, it was a series of ideas in my head that I transferred into a notebook.
I enthusiastically researched yoga teacher trainings and started a notebook with all my ideas. I followed through with the small steps and actions I had control over and those steps opened the doors to the next steps and the next, creating momentum for my dream to come true.
Two years later, against most odds, HappyTree Yoga Studio opened its doors and I never could've foreseen or planned the exact way in which it came to be. Don't worry about HOW your goals will happen, just put one foot in front of the other a start. NOW.
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." - Lao Tzu